How are your excuses keeping you blocked?


Did you know that your ego manipulates you and sabotages your life without you even realising it sometimes?!

The topic of excuses is such a big one that I've kept procrastinating over writing about it. I've just, this red hot second, realised that I've been listening to the voice of my ego which has been telling me for months that 'I'm too busy to do that now', 'I don't have all the information' or 'I'm not in the mood to write that newsletter today!" How hilarious to catch my naughty little ego voice just now, in front of you, just as I am writing about the topic for you! Ha ha ha! And lucky that I did catch it or else you'd never receive this newsletter and that would be sad because this is such an important topic. It's one of the things that could change your life overnight!

The other tragedy is that there are so many people in the world who use excuses to lie to themselves all their lives without ever even knowing it! So they never realise that the reason their lives are not as fulfilled and happy and rich as they could be is because they didn't ever recognise the voice of their ego or lower self lying to them. Ask yourself, am I one of those people unconscious and slave driven by my cunning little ego self?

So this is what I wanted to talk to you about; the fact that you and I, and indeed everyone else in the world, have two voices running the show when it comes to making decisions in our lives.

The question to ask yourself is "Which voice am I listening to on a daily basis?" The voice of your lower self, (who wants to keep you small, and safe and blocked because it believes the world is a dangerous place) OR the voice of your higher self (who loves you, genuinely wants only the best for you, and who wants to help you fulfil your life mission and live a joyful life)?

If you don't know what voices I'm talking about it's the one that just said that in your own head 'I don't know what voices she's talking about?!' They both sound like you BUT they both have different intentions and agendas when it comes to running your life!

The voice of the lower self often says things like this (see if you can recognise yourself in any of these) ;)

* I can't do it...
* I can't afford it.....
* It's too late.......
* I'm not good enough.....
* I'll do that later...
* It's hopeless to even try...
* It's not the right time for me...
* I'll do it next time....
* But they/ he/she/my family need me...
* I don't know...

etc.

The problem with these statements aren't necessarily the statements themselves but rather what saying these statements prevents you from doing, being or having all for the wrong reasons.


If you're unaware of the way you make excuses to get out of living your best life then you are unconsciously giving your excuses more power than your commitment to doing whatever it takes to achieve your goal. Excuses transfer all of your inner power over to outer circumstances and disable your ability to create results. In short, your excuses sabotage you and unless you become aware of what your personal default set of excuses are, you will remain prisoner to your ego and may never live the life of your dreams!

Excuses are also automatic. They require no thinking because they have become your habit over a lifetime and your ego has done a great job of making you believe that they're true! If you're intelligent and think that your intelligence makes you immune to your ego's tricks then think again! According to Marianne Williamson and A Course in Miracles, the smarter you are the smarter and more insidious or creatively manipulative your ego becomes!!!

I can relate to this upgrading of my ego's tactics when once during an acting class (for those of you who don't know I am also an actress as well as a therapist and teacher) I was offered the chance to work with a director who uses a very powerful and unique technique based on psychotherapy for accessing emotions for use in our work as professional actors.

Well, if you know anything about me, I am one the most open and spontaneous 'yes' people around. I have done literally hundreds of workshops and random courses and participated on fun and daring adventures and experiences because I want to always say YES to life and discover new horizons every day.

But this time for once a voice in my head said 'Oh no Renee, you don't need to go to that course. You've done so many already AND you're a good enough actress, AND you're a professional therapist yourself. What's this woman going to teach you that you don't already know? You don't need to do ANOTHER course! You know a lot already'.

So, to cut a long story short I politely declined the first offer. Luckily for me though, the offer came round again the next year. I had been doing even more self-development work around this time and this time, despite still having some fear and reservations, I thought differently and dared myself to 'just try it out you never know what I might learn and discover either about myself or the actual process'. Anyway, what happened was amazing. I LOVED the new technique, I LOVED the teacher and her teaching style and positive attitude AND I learned SO MUCH about myself! I gained an invaluable tool for my work and I can definitely say that my acting skills have been elevated to newer and higher levels as a result. Yet I would NEVER have had this gift had I not questioned my lower self's sneaky voice!!!

Now, whenever it comes to taking workshops or trying out new experiences and I find myself hesitant I make sure to meditate on it even more deeply to find out whether I'm hesitant because of a genuine reason or to discover that it's my lower self trying to stop me from experiencing something potentially wonderful and life-changing!

So, what are your excuses and how do they rob you from living the life of your dreams?

Think of a time in your life when everything was flowing well and you were living successfully and happily in whatever area of your life whether in your career or your personal life. Then identify how you were thinking about achieving your goals at that time. Chances are you had a few excuses tempting you to stop trying for your goal but you didn't allow yourself to get seduced by them. Instead you were unstoppable and had made up your mind that you would do whatever it would take to achieve your goal.

You see it's all about choice. If you are conscious enough about your subconscious patterns and self-sabotage mechanisms then you have the power to reclaim your inner power and make enlightened decisions each time you're confronted with a choice.

I encourage you to take a look at the Action Steps I've suggested for you below. And if you're interested in discovering and distinguishing between the voices of your lower and higher selves I strongly encourage you to come to one of my workshops! There is at least one Heal Your Life workshop every year this is a good first workshop to attend if you are new to this type of work as it's a good general all rounder.

Participating on a workshop is a very powerful experience that lets you bust your ego! Remember it's clever and upgrades constantly every time you reach a new level of self awareness or personal development so constant assessment on your part is necessary, which is why people return to my workshops for top up sessions every year. Also participating on a workshop allows you to better recognise, and work with, the voice of your higher self to get the results in your life that you want. There are a number of tools and techniques that you will learn that you will then have at your disposal that you can use for the rest of your life! :)

Now some of the WORST excuses I've had are from people who say 'MAYBE, I'll see if I'm free then'. I mean how non-committal is that?! I don't mind you not coming to one of my courses if it absolutely does not resonate with you but if you've met me, and you like my work and you like me and my energy as a person, and especially if you've worked with me in some other capacity before, why would you not trust me when I say 'Come and try this it is LIFE CHANGING and AMAZING?!" I respect you if you are saying no from a conscious decision to but, I'll be honest with you, it does frustrate me when people say 'no' on auto pilot because I know I'm talking to, and staring into the face, of their ego selves! Argggh! :) And their ego is winning and preventing them from experiencing something so joyful and so beautiful! It’s heart breaking sometimes I can tell you.

As H. Ecker said in similar words "I don't want a 'maybe'.’Maybe's are for losers. Winners are good at making on the spot decisions. It's either a 'yes' or a 'no thanks' but never give me a 'maybe' because you're just saying that to buy yourself more time in order to allow your ego to make up the perfect excuse later that you'll end up believing yourself so that you don't have to feel guilty for letting me down!" Very good point indeed.

So, be more CONSCIOUS, LISTEN closely to the voices that decide things for you, and TAKE ACTION in some way to improve your ability to distinguish between your two voices so that you can make more DISCERNING choices.

And one other thing: be compassionate with yourself as you make these changes. The voice of your lower self is only acting out of fear and is just trying to protect you. So gently thank it and lovingly but firmly say 'Thanks for sharing but I choose to think about this differently now' and see how your life changes as a result.


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Action Step


1) Think of a situation where you are not where you want to be regarding your goal in that area. Then think of the 3 excuses you usually use (choose the 3 that that come to mind first). The voice in your head telling you why 'it won't work' or why 'you can't do it, be it, or have it, whatever 'it' is'.

Then write down the OPPOSITE statement or affirmation. Write down why it COULD work or why you CAN do, be or have 'it'!

Then for the next 30 days focus only on the positive statement and the possiblity that, actually, it could happen this way! Then see what happens ;) Life can change magically when you are no longer lying to yourself and focusing on your excuses rather than your commitment, creativity and possibilities.

2) If you want MASSIVE CHANGE then you've got to be prepared to take MASSIVE ACTION! What else can you do to create a profound shift in your way of thinking and your way of using your energy to create miracles in your life? DO and THINK something DIFFERENT to what you have previously done and thought in the past. Upgrade your thoughts, your emotions & your energy and you'll upgrade the quality and speed of the changes you wish to have happen in your life.

3) This is REALLY going to challenge your ego! If you're all revved up and serious about changing your life now and can give yourself 2 days to do my workshop and put in 100% of your energy, focus and commitment then I want to work with YOU!

I dare you to come to my next 'Heal Your Life' workshop. I promise you that your life will never be the same again! AND as a bonus, I guarantee you that if you don't find the course uplifting and life changing I will refund you 100% of your fee. The only requirment is that you have to have completed the whole of the 2-day course first. It is necessary for you to experience ALL the steps in order and in their entirety. You need to receive the full teachings first before you ask for a refund. This is only fair. Also, you wouldn't want your ego to have a loophole to easily bail you out of the course at the first sign of resistance would you?! Resistance to something is sometimes a sign that you are on the verge of real growth and your ego knows this. Think of what you would be missing!

But seriously, if you're not convinced or happy after the 2 day intensive you can ask for your money back! SO, with that kind of guarantee what EXCUSE is your ego telling you now about why you can't come? Is it some sort of rubbish? I laugh whenever I catch my sneaky, little ego creating some other manipulative 'excuse' for me to believe. What's yours saying? Because seriously, with the 100% money back gurantee and the fact that this is the only Heal Your Life workshop this year, AND the fact that you're still reading this! There is no excuse not to come and just try it out. Give it a go! TRY it and see how your life could change!

To the bravest and most committed of you, I salute you and I look forward to working with you soon! I'm excited for you! To the rest of you I send you love and I look forward to hopefully working with you in the future when, or if, you ever let your ego take a hike! he he ;) Thank you for reading this and letting me get 'all motivational' on you! ;)

Namaste,

♥Renee x